A little presumptuously, I will add my own pennyworth.
Merely making a New Year’s Resolution, just for the sake of it, is not enough. Extraordinarly perhaps, a good number of people seem to make an annual resolution just to make some resolutions. The way we work in mind body and spirit cannot cope with the vagueness of that! And indulging in such a practice is not good for the soul anyhow.
Whatever our resolution is, for it to work effectively and be achieved we need to really, really want that. A Resolution constituting a mere wish is not enough!
And making too many resolutions at once doesn’t work either, certainly until we get skilled at it.
We need to see one resolution in our minds – done, executed, completed – in vivid and emotional form. It should be like a picture we have willingly emblazoned on our psyche, just as one of the contributors to the article describes.
We need to talk ourselves up and speak of our mission in positive and not negative or even doubtful terms – again as the article recommends.
And I endorse the suggested need to set an end date, and breaking the intended achievement down into bite-size chunks,
But I would say, however, one odd but vital feature missed too often is this. It’s a question we should ask to test ourselves at the very start!
This is the significant point so often missed!
Unless our imagined image of our resolution achieved means enough to us – and certainly much more to us than where we are in life right now, then the vital engine of motivation is not fired within us to achieve it. Or if it is, then that engine, as mechanics say, ‘misses’ badly until it soon falters and dies.
My best advice is only make a resolution if you really mean it, want it, see it and feel it as though it was done, AND if you know life for you would be so much better with your success. That desire is what will drive you to achieve it. It should be a mission, no less.
Making a defective resolution bound to fail is bad for one’s self-worth and self-esteem anyway. It leaves the feeling of failure. Worse it convinces one there is no way to obtain change and improve when, done properly, there is. The process does work!
Happy New Year and great success with your well-made resolutions!
Gerry Neale
www.squaringcircles.co.ukhttp://squaringcirclesbygerryneale.blogspot.com
